“The needle pricks involved in acupuncture may help relieve pain by triggering a natural painkilling chemical called adenosine, a new study has found.”
May 31, 2010
Acupuncture May Trigger Natural Painkiller
May 28, 2010
Why Kendra Wilkinson’s Sex Tape Should Make You Angry
“Yesterday a 10-minute clip from Kendra Wilkinson‘s teenage sex video hit the ‘net (it’s NSFW but you’re on your own to Google it). And what I saw was infuriating to me.”
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Helen’s Observation:
“Yes, it makes me angry that she participated but her ‘no’s were ignored.
It makes me angry that some dumb phuck was able to manipulate her so easily.
It makes me angry that young women will trade sex for love.
It makes me angry that young men have so few scruples when it comes to sex.
I hate the whole damn thing.”
May 27, 2010
Quote of the Day
“Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.”
- Arnold Bennett
May 27, 2010
Transgender rights advocates see a gradual series of victories
Mara Keisling — 6-foot-2, with frizzy brown hair and a wry smile — is the best-known transgender activist in Washington, which is to say she is not well known at all.
“Trust me,” Keisling said after finishing a conversation with one congressional staffer. “We have no political clout.”
May 19, 2010
Quote of the Day
“If you only do what you know you can do- you never do very much.”
- Tim KrauseMay 15, 2010
The Change Cycle: Moving from Fear/Loss to Understanding and Integration
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Loss –> Doubt –> Discomfort –> Discovery –> Understanding –> Integration
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting for the old, but on building the new.”
-Socrates
May 15, 2010
Would You Help a Battered Woman If She Were Dressed Provocatively?
This amazing story by ABC News program “What would you do?” is too compelling not to be posted… What would you do?
From Jezebel.com:
“…ABC used hidden cameras and actors to see what regular people would do if they saw an obviously abused woman being harassed by her boyfriend. A lot of regular people failed the test.
The highly-successful 20/20 spinoff What Would You Do? brings social experiments to television, using variables to test how ordinary people react to situations such as seeing someone steal a bike in a park, or witnessing a deli clerk give a blind man incorrect change. Lately, the show has been raising the stakes, and last night reporter John Quiñones showed us what restaurant diners do when they see a very obviously bruised woman getting picked on by her boyfriend at a nearby table.”
May 14, 2010
Quote of the Day
“Victory is won not in miles but in inches. Win a little now, hold your ground, and later, win a little more.”
- Louis L’Amour
May 12, 2010
Why Can’t I Have the Relationship I Want?
I’m often asked by acquaintances, friends, and clients about why it is so hard to find the right person for the right relationship. When inquiring about what is important in a relationship I often hear things like: “same religion”, “common interests”, “someone to take care of me”, “companionship”, “pulling their own weight”, “cares about me as much as they care about themselves”, and so on.
When the conversation goes toward what one EXPECTS in a relationship, it often turns on responsibilities, commitments, and what the other person can do for them. And, often, it turns out that those features that attracted one to the person now figure prominently in being problems in the ongoing wear and tear and maintenance of the relationship.
Thus the question comes up, “Why can’t I find the right person for me?” Often it comes down to understanding one’s real needs and one’s real baggage that we all bring to bear in any relationship.
There are a few axioms I use in my business to help clients process their inner feelings and thoughts concerning their needs and what they expect from a relationship in meeting those needs:
Axiom #1: We often have relationships that reflect our own self-worth.
While this is not always the case, often we do find that one’s own sense of self-worth is sabotaging choosing the right partner.
Axiom #2: That which is suppressed will find a way to be expressed, and you may not like the way it is expressed!
So if we’re trying to “make” ourselves “good” for our partner, or “acceptable” or all the things we think our partner wants… or if we’re trying to “change” our partner, or “make” our partner meet our needs, well, guess what? You’re going to spring lots and lots of leaks! Change comes from within. You cannot make others meet your emotional and relational needs. That you must do yourself. Otherwise, you’ll be leaking all over your relationships (unconsciously)!
Axiom #3: We often find people like our own family system from childhood.
Even though I promised myself I would NEVER get into a bad relationship like what I saw growing up, I found the same type of person and recreated the same darn family system! It was NOT on purpose. It’s very unconscious. And it takes a conscious effort to realize what is going on. It’s like a comfortable shoe. It slips on so easily. You can do it without even thinking about it. That’s what happens when we gravitate toward a person or sense a familiarity or comfortable-ness about them early on. That is something to pay attention to. If you come from a positive and nurturing family system, then fantastic. But if you don’t, then pay attention.
Just because it seems comfortable or familiar (“seems like we’ve known each other for ages and we’ve just met!”) doesn’t mean it is going to be healthy for you or him.
Axiom #4: Know thyself.
Know yourself. Really, really know yourself, your needs, your hopes, and your BAGGAGE! Be willing to look inside yourself for those wonderful qualities you have, and those elements of yourself by which you might be sabotaging your own relationships. I’m not saying you do or don’t. In fact, I think this is true for all of us. Reach inside yourself and really look at who you are and what you want in a relationship.
Axiom #5: A relationship is not about the other person meeting your needs.
It’s about respect, honesty, open communication, and being emotionally supportive. Anything else that you or I might require of the other person, or the other person of you, beware that you are not stepping into the abyss of disappointment and dashed hopes, from whence relationships do not often recover.
May 8, 2010
Quote of the Day – Friendship
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one!”
- C.S.Lewis
