Transgender, the Military, and Ignorant Donald Trump…


I’m usually quiet on matters of transgender people, even though I am one. I like to work one-on-one, by being a decent human being and caring person. I also want to be seen as a multi-dimensional person.

But I cannot stay silent on President Trump’s latest declaration that transgender people are unfit to serve. This from a draft dodger who took five deferments to avoid Vietnam.  His final draft status: 4-F (Unfit to Serve).  My final draft status for Vietnam: 1-A (Active / Fit to Serve). The irony is delicious.

  1. Donald Trump is wrong about transgender in the military. Just like in the 40’s when arguments against blacks being integrated hurt unit cohesion. Just like in the 80’s and 90’s when arguments about women in combat zones would hurt unit cohesion. Just like in the 90’s and 00’s when arguments against gays would hurt unit cohesion. These are the arguments of fear mongers, racists, misogynists, homophobes, and idiots. There is no data to support their claims. It is old identity politics. It’s stupid, asinine, and fear based on ignorance. America should be better than this.Gays, women, people of color, transgender folk have always served in the US military. They just couldn’t be open about it. But they’ve always been there, for as long as there has been a United States of America.

2. Medical costs on transgender are not “tremendous”, despite Donald Trump’s claims. Medical treatment for trans folk is not cheap, but, it is, in fact, cheaper than going to the ER for multiple complex fractures and injuries from a car accident; far cheaper than treating cancer; and slightly more expensive than gallbladder removal or a hysterectomy.   The one-time costs on surgery range anywhere from $17,000 to $85,000 depending on the surgeon and the location. Hormones are relatively inexpensive, depending upon the method: pill, patch, or injection. Electrolysis / laser hair removal is $100-$200 per hour and usually comes out of trans person’s own pocket.

Other surgeries, such as plastic surgery, are also deemed by insurance companies as optional, so that comes out of our own pockets as well. Ongoing medical costs are typical, as you would normally expect, for any average American woman or man in the long term.

3. As Barry Goldwater once said, “”you don’t need to be ‘straight’ to fight and die for your country. You just need to shoot straight.

4. If anyone is unfit to serve, it is you, Donald Trump. And you prove it every time you open your mouth.

5. You attacked me, my patriotism, my loyalty, and my humanity. Surely you don’t expect me to roll over and play dead now?

6. I’m now in the “great game”. You’ve pissed me off. And millions of decent Americans are not going to put up with this chit.

I will fight because I’ve had to for the past 20 years to exist. I don’t want to fight. But I will. I, and people like me, have a right to live in peace and not be harassed by ignorant phucks like you, Donald Trump.

Go to hell.


“If You’re Not Bold, You’ll Never Get Anywhere” []

by Carol Robidoux /

Nashua, NH – Stacie Laughton had a last-minute change of plan. Instead of filing her paperwork to declare her candidacy for Ward 4 state representative ceremoniously on the first day to file Wednesday, she’s waiting until tomorrow, when she can arrive at the City Clerk’s office with her fellow Democrats, in unity.

However, she did make the trip to City Hall on the first day of filing, just to pick up her paperwork, deliver a brief speech to the three people who came for her big moment, and consider the possibilities ahead.

She is the first transgender candidate to run for state office in New Hampshire.

“I’m not sure what historically it means. When I lived in Laconia, I was the youngest candidate to run for city council. And I believe I’m the first transgender female to be a selectman here in Nashua, but obviously, I represent all people, regardless of their gender identification,” said Laughton.

“I believe what I’m doing will bring more acceptance to the trans community and interest them in being involved. I do have my fears, but when it comes to public office, if you’re not bold you will never get anywhere,” Laughton said.

Her own interest in politics goes back to childhood.

Laughton was born and raised in Nashua, although she moved to Laconia in 2003, where she ran unsuccessfully three times for a city council seat, once for state rep in 2010, and once as an at-large school board member.

She moved back to Nashua about a year ago and finally won a race, as a write-in candidate for Ward 4 Selectman in the last election.

“I can remember going into the voting booth with my parents as a kid, and our TV was always tuned to either “Sesame Street” or the news. My parents were very interested in politics. At 16 I started taking an interest in it myself, and by the time I was old enough to vote at 18, I started getting involved,” Laughton said.

As a teenager, she remembers attending meetings in Nashua for the Pennichuck Water Works, and also attending meetings about parking problems in the city.

“Parking is still an issue here, and it interests me in that I want to make sure we do something right for business owners here. The plan we have in place in Nashua is a first good step, but it’s not a cure all,” said Laughton.

She earns a modest Selectman’s salary, and is in the process of relaunching a small business, M&S Green Goods, which sells environmentally sound products including cleaners, soy candles and light bulbs. She resides in Nashua with her wife and campaign manager, Lisa Laughton.

Other hot-button city issues on Laughton’s radar include advocating for commuter rail and for adequate housing for the poor.

“I believe it’s important to lift people up from homelessness. I like the saying, that we should give a hand up and not a hand out – we do have a responsibility to make sure there’s adequate housing for all people, especially in these times, when the economy is still so difficult,” Laughton said.

Her Ward includes Bronstein Park, a subsidized housing complex that Mayor Lozeau would like to raze. Laughton isn’t so sure that is the right solution.

That’s a big reason why she’s running, to represent the people who tend to not have a voice in Concord.

“In our Ward we have the Soup Kitchen and pretty much all of the ‘tree streets,’ and I lived in those areas and I recognize the needs – and I lived those needs. I figured it was time for somebody to step up to the plate that knew and understood those needs,” Laughton said.

She said even if her candidacy as a transgender woman is a historic “first,” she hopes voters will be able to focus more on her message than her gender identity.

In her estimation political partisanship among our state representatives is a much more pressing problem.

“I don’t want being transgender to be a focal point. I want to stand on the issues. Yes, I’m a Democrat and there is a level of distrust between us and the the other party. But because of who I am, I believe I can work between party lines and not let political partisanship hold us up when it comes to the important matters before us at the Statehouse,” Laughton said.

Openly gay lawmakers have served in the New Hampshire Legislature before, including former Rep. Ray Buckley, now chairman of the New Hampshire Democratic Party.

The Legislature continues to debate some of the same social issues that raise emotions, and awareness, in other states. Same-sex couples are allowed to marry in New Hampshire, and a bill to remove gay marriage fell short earlier this year.

Former state Rep. Jim Splaine, the Portsmouth Democrat who sponsored the gay marriage law, believes Laughton would be the first transgender lawmaker.

“We have had many openly gay members of the New Hampshire House,” Splaine told Nashua Patch, “but I don’t know of any other openly transgender members.”